I asked Selby what she thinks love is and she answered: "Making people happy." I was shocked and so very proud of her response. I have never directly taught her this, but the definition of love in Buddhism is: "wanting others to be happy."
Next, I asked her how you let someone know you love them. Here are her responses:
- Give them hugs & kisses.
- Tell them you love them.
- Wish them a good day.
- Ask them how they are doing.
I'm so pleased - and relieved - Selby believes love comes from inside. With all the commercialism of Valentine's Day, I was worried she might somehow confuse affection with "stuff" (we saw over three aisles at Target filled with candy and love-themed junk over the weekend). No worries - she gets it.
So, I wrote my little enlightened one's definition of love, and all her ideas about how to show & share it, on our kitchen chalkboard. I left plenty of room to add more thoughts throughout the week. And I will continue to share them with you here in the hopes they will make you happy.